SECOND ELEMENT IN RELATIONSHIPS

Post date: Sep 21, 2016 1:29:03 AM

It will be good to know that the words we speak matters in our relationships; words are easy to speak but their values are far beyond our imaginations; their impact in the lives of those we are in relationship are far larger than we will ever understand; there are sweet words and there are bitter words and we should know how and when to use each; words can be very encouraging and words can be very discouraging, we should be wise to encourage each other at all times; words are from the heart and express its intents and it is the readiness for action. If we can speak it, then we can do it. There is power in spoken words. Some of the reasons for relationship are to offer tangible assistance to each other at all times and in all things; it is to be there for the other person in times of weakness and strength, in their presence and in their absence, in times of discouragement and in times of encouragement; in times of fears and in times of hope; in times of failure and in times of success; in times of sadness and in times of rejoicing. It is observed that relationship is often strengthened when we know the other person is there to give us needed strength and bring us out of everything that causes physical and spiritual depression. The scriptures encourage us to “Bless those who persecute you, who cause you harm or hardship; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, sharing others’ joy, and weep with those who weep, sharing others’ grief. Romans 12:14-15

In minding our words, the bible encourages use to be wise in speaking and to do our very best to be a true source of courage to each other in ways that will grow our relationship positively; it says in Colossians 4:5-6 “Conduct yourself with wisdom in your interactions with outsiders non-believers, make the most of each opportunity treating it as something precious. Let your speech at all times be gracious and pleasant, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how to answer each one who questions you.” What we are told to do is not to react to every situation with anger despite the level of provocation and its source. As true Christians, God is looking at us as His own instruments for good works, He is depending on us to represent Him in our conversations and interactions in every relationship, He is desiring that we be able and good ambassadors and good stewards of His grace to everyone at every time in every situation and in every location we find ourselves. What we speak can seriously affect our relationship irrespective of our profession, our qualifications, our status and our level of knowledge in such matter.

Let us look at some wisdom on the use of words from the scriptures as we seek to develop and maintain a healthy relationship in the true love of Jesus Christ our Lord. “From the fruit of his mouth a wise man enjoys good, but the desire of the treacherous is for violence. The one who guards his mouth thinking before he speaks protects his life; the one who opens his lips wide and chatters without thinking comes to ruin. A man will be satisfied with good from the fruit of his words, and the deeds of a man’s hands will return to him as a harvest. The way of the arrogant fool who rejects God’s wisdom is right in his own eyes, but a wise and prudent man is he who listens to counsel. The arrogant fool’s anger is quickly known because he lacks self-control and common sense, but a prudent man ignores an insult. He who speaks truth when he testifies tells what is right, but a false witness utters deceit. There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips will be established forever, but a lying tongue is credited only for a moment. A man’s stomach will be satisfied with the fruit of his mouth; he will be satisfied with the consequence of his words. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.” Proverbs 13:2-3; Proverbs 12:14-19; and Proverbs 18:20-21. To maintain a right relationship, to be rewarded by God in a relationship, to have the expected joy and satisfaction in any of our relationships, we are to speak honestly, wisely and encouragingly. We are to guard our words at all times before all manners of men and we should trust God always and in all situation. For prayers Click here